Kelleen Griffin · Leadership Development Expert

Just caught myself out.

I read an article about Gen Y’ers. The article made the assertion that this group of individuals has a particularly egregious trait. The article suggested that all Gen Y’ers are narcissists.

I kept reading because I was intrigued. I wanted to know what the author meant by ‘narcissist.’ And I wondered if it was possible to so stereotype a group of people. I noticed too how irritated I was. Now that’s weird – it was just an article.

Reading further, I found no definition of narcissism. Hmmmm.

Then I asked myself if it even made sense that 10, 20 and 30 yr…

The human side of enterprise is any gathering of people for a specific purpose. That’s it. It’s not more complicated than that.

(And if you believe that I have a bridge in…:)

Let’s give this a go and take a look at the parts. At the macro level, the enterprise is the business; at the micro level, the enterprise is a meeting, as in a leadership team meeting, a board meeting, and so on.

The purpose of the gathering is the “IT” – the driving force behind why we showed up in the first place. At the business level, the IT or ITS (plural) is to be, do or have the mission of the busin…

And now for a break from our regular programming to bring you this really funny moment.

I was tweeting with power and vigor. I had just finished watching my 85Broads virtual panel on Twitter, and I felt informed and ready. I can do this! Still a little unsure why, but what they hey! I’m game. Let’s give this a whirl.

Tweet, tweet, tweet. Wahoo. 25th tweet, 54th tweet, look at me go. I’m a veteran, with each key stroke, feeling more confident.

And then it happened.

“@truecomfortcafe, can we interview you?”

OMG, I was @’ed. Someone @ me! Now what do I do?

This is the momen…

This week’s post is the first in a series that speaks to new ways of being in our corporate settings. This information is derived from the many old Indigenous People’s Ways, and I share them with deep respect for these Ways. All of these systems and approaches are designed to bring about harmony and balance, particularly in communities that are in dscord and disruption.

Sounds like the job arena to me, how about you?

The Talking Stick Ceremony. Here is a “hypothetical” situation. A very toxic division is stymied by discord, the individuals have long since stopped respecting each oth…

Advice can be as toxic as large corporate environments.

There are a thousand books on the different approaches to getting stuff done in corporate America. They call for us to have fierce conversations, or get naked with our feelings or go toe to toe or climb into the lifeboat or sit knee to knee.

Do we really believe this? Why do we need to have body parts touching in order to be heard?

I was smiling as I wrote this thinking to myself, haha, is this the dog park equivalent of sniffing butts? …..sniff, sniff, sniff….wag tail…sniff, sniff, sniff….wag tail.

Doggi…

Ever hear the old joke about three men who are playing golf and telling each other all the things they had to promise their wives in order to get there? The list of honey-do’s is long, until finally, one guy says, "I didn’t have to promise her a thing. I just set the alarm for 5 am, and when it went off, I rolled over and said, "Golf course or intercourse? and she said, “Wear your sweater.”

This week’s tip is about trade offs and it’s called the ‘100 Pennies Rule.’

It’s a super simple, often overlooked, methodology. You learned it when you were a kid. Remember when your Dad said, …

Often in significant relationships, there are moments in time when it’s easiest to ‘just do it’, rather than make ‘an issue out of it.’ Instead of being the ‘heavy’, having to ‘talk about it’, or ‘being serious’, it’s just easier ‘to go along.’

In all of human nature there is no more dangerous an act. To not speak your truth is a subtle but significant shift in the balance of a relationship. It begins a viral process, always measuring whether now is the right time to bring something up, tamping down feelings because they may not be welcome.

I see this all the time with my coaching clien…

Okay, so I’m going to do that annoying parable thing now. There are these two young fish swimming along and they happen to meet an older fish swimming the other way, who nods at them and says “Morning, boys. How’s the water?” And the two young fish swim on for a bit, and then eventually one of them looks over at the other and goes “What the hell is water?”*

Parables are annoying because they delay gratification, because by definition the reader is supposed to go: huh?

Stay with me.

Whether you’re a boss, a colleague or a client, you probably exhibit jerk-like behavior once in awhile…