For many of us, a happy and balanced life feels like a fleeting dream, something reserved for a handful of superwomen. The truth is, however, we can all achieve it. Yes, getting there requires a strategy and focus, but it is do-‐able. To that end, here are five steps you can take right now to get on your way.
As you undertake this journey, it is important to always be aware that your goal, your happy and balanced life, is not an end state; it’s a life you create and negotiate on a daily basis. And that each of us has a unique version of a happy and balanced life. Don’t worry about the super mom down the road, the gold standard is how balanced you feel.
Now, let’s get you on your way.
1. Take a Life Inventory
You need a starting point. Draw a circle and divide it into eight sections. Label them with the following headings: Health, Family & Friends, Career, Finances, Physical Environment, Fun & Recreation, Personal Growth and Marriage/Significant other. Give each section a rating, on a scale of 1 to 10, based on how satisfied you are (don’t fudge, be honest with yourself). Look at your wheel and pinpoint what is keeping you off balance. What areas are working well? What areas need improvement? What area are you the most motivated to work on?
2. Create a Vision
Now that you know where you are, you need to create a vision to work towards. Write a vivid description of what your happy and balanced life would look like. Be as detailed as possible. What activities would you include? How often do you do them? How do they make you feel? Are you alone? Who are you with?
3. Create Measurable Goals
It’s one thing to say ‘I need to improve my physical health in order to achieve balance’, it’s quite another to say ‘I will take 2 yoga classes, every week, on Tuesday and Thursday at OM Yoga.’ The first is wishful thinking, the second is a measurable goal with an action plan. So go ahead take the area of your life that you want to work on and write a measurable goal next to it. What, how, and when, are good PLACES to start.
4. Track Your Progress
The only way to know you’re making headway towards your balanced life is
to keep track of your progress. Keep a journal that is easily accessible throughout the day. On the very first page have the description of your balanced life. On the second page write your measurable goals and action steps. Everyday write down the steps, no matter how small, that you’ve taken toward your measurable goal.
5. Reward Yourself
We’re all good at beating ourselves up for what we don’t accomplish. That habit needs to be broken if balance is to be achieved! There is no magical snapping of the fingers to achieve happiness and balance. It’s done by taking small daily steps towards your goals and congratulating yourself for every success. Each step, each action, no matter how small, is essential and thus should be rewarded. Take a moment everyday to acknowledge what you have achieved.
Remember, you are in charge of your life and you have an opportunity to renegotiate your personal balanced life, every single day. Now get started!
Sophie Blondeau is an NYU-Certified Life Coach and the founder of Balance Life Coaching ([balancelifecoaching.biz]), a company devoted to helping women achieve a balanced and happy life.
I practice what I preach. On a daily basis I strive to reach my fullest potential, a balanced & happy life whilst managing a career and three children. I believe that every woman can achieve their version of a balanced life.
Before I became a certified coach, I spent over a decade in global advertising working with multinational clients including Gillette, General Mills and Unilever. Loved the rush of strategic work and building teams around the globe. Loved going up the corporate ladder and felt proud when I made Partner. Always felt like I was meant to do something else with my life.
Like most women I want to have it all, a beautiful, happy family, a dynamic personal life and a thriving career. To that end I’ve tried every combination. I’ve worked 2 days a week, 4 days a week. Did full-time mothering. Did consulting. Went back to school to earn my certificate in Coaching. Became fascinated with the research on how the brain works and how we can influence our thinking to influence our actions. Became fascinated with research findings in the field of Positive Psychology and Neuropsychology and how we can significantly improve our lives. Started my coaching practice so that I can share my learnings with as many women as possible. I finally feel like I’ve found my calling.